My Likes, My Worth

By Joy Kalu


(Via Joy Kalu)

Likes, favorites, retweets, and follows, those are just a few of the things that make the world go round right?

Are we conceited? Full of ourselves? Self-obsessed? All of the above maybe?

We live in the selfie age, the age of posting pictures that we took of ourselves in order to receive approval based on how popular the image is. It’s gotten to the point where some people post a selfie, and if it doesn’t receive enough likes or recognition, they just delete the picture. But, this selfie age has also led to the age of lower self-image and lowered self-worth.

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t receive satisfaction from the amount of likes I got on every picture I posted. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t wait to post pictures on my social media accounts until “optimal/prime posting time”. Along with most other people, I’ve become consumed by a number, a number, which now to me, defines my worth.

If you ask someone who once had an Instagram but now doesn’t why they deleted it, chances are most people would say they felt as if they were losing their self-worth and self-love due to how many likes they were getting on a picture compared to another person. While this, for the most part, pertains to women, men alike are also facing the same problem.

This isn’t saying that Instagram or any other social media platform is bad; it’s just saying that we’ve turned something good into something harmful. The point of social media is to share, share your life in pictures and words. But now, rather than sharing a picture of the nice tree, it’s a picture of yourself with the nice tree possibly in the corner of the picture. Yet, you still caption it “what a nice tree”.

We’ve become self-absorbed, feeding off the approval of others. It’s no longer a matter of making sure grandma knows what going on, it’s hoping that today you can get break 100 likes since yesterday you only got 85.

We are traveling down a path of self-destruction yet we see no harm in what we are doing. We continue to feed our desire for attention and approval through likes and comments and retweets. But until we come to the realization that what we are doing is detrimental to our health, we will never fully be satisfied.


Gajanan, Mahita. “Young Women on Instagram and Self-esteem: ‘I Absolutely Feel Insecure'” The Guardian. Guardian News and Media, 2015. Web. 16 Oct. 2016.

@MensHealthMag. “Why Instagram Makes You Hate Yourself.” Men’s Health. N.p., 2015. Web. 16 Oct. 2016.

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