Shiver Me Tinder

By: Nathan Cooper | @nathancooperstu

Tinder is a location based mobile dating sensation that has been around for a couple of years now. The app was first released in 2012 and has continued to gain popularity as time has gone on. The app allows people to swipe and connect with other people that swipe them back.

Whenever something is going well it is only natural for people to want grow it, but what is in the future for tinder? According to a recent article from BBC news, tinder is looking to have artificial intelligence be able to set you up on a date. The creator says that you’d be able to talk to Siri and she would be able to set you up on a date and find people that you might be attracted to.

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I do not know think this a good step forward. I believe that this only further takes out the human aspect of relations and relationships. There is nothing organic about that process, but sadly I think it is something a lot of people might be into. I suppose only time will truly tell.

Sources:

Lee, Dave. “Tinder wants AI to set you up on a date.” BBC News. BBC, 22 Feb. 2017. Web. 27 Feb. 2017.

The Tinder Effect

By Shannon Quinn

Nowadays, if you ask anyone young and (hopefully) single, odds are they have a Tinder, or another dating app like Bumble, OkCupid, or Happn….or maybe all of the above to increase their options. Tinder is the most popular of these apps. According to CNBC, Tinder has 1.4 billion swipes in 196 countries each day. But what makes these apps so desirable and addictive to singles?Image result for dating apps

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 Whether dating apps are being used for hook ups or soul mates there is no mistaking how addictive and satisfying it is to get matches. This is similar to the feeling of getting likes or retweets on social media sites. The apps are also addicting due to the minimal amount of effort it takes to get a match. This could be laziness, or maybe it just works better with our fast paced lives. There is no denying the allure of dating apps in our high speed society.

While dating apps may prove to be successful for some, especially for hookups, for many people, including myself, it causes constant dissatisfaction. I like to call this the Tinder Effect. It is based on the philosophy of Jean Jacques Rousseau from the 18th century. He said preferences are what cause humans to be miserable, because they cause us to always want something more, or better. The Tinder Effect can cause you to be quick to judge someone, and can make first dates your last dates easily. In an interview by the Washington Post, Michelle Jacoby, the owner of DC Matchmaker and Coaching, she says dating apps cause “Dating ADD”, where daters are “more quick to judge because they know that if you’re not spectacular, they can go back to their inbox, and just swipe right again tomorrow”.

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At first, I thought the Tinder Effect was a good thing, because it raises someone’s standards, which is what you’re supposed to do to find someone worthy of you, right? But the truth is, it causes unrealistic standards that are impossible to reach. The Tinder Effect combined with the addictive qualities of the dating apps are a dangerous combination. Once you’re affected by the Tinder Effect, you’ll never be satisfied with anyone until you realize that you’re not setting realistic expectations. It doesn’t affect everyone, but if it does happen to you, delete your Tinder immediately.

Citations:

Clifford, Catherine. “How a Tinder Founder Came up with Swiping and Changed Dating Forever.” CNBC. CNBC, 06 Jan. 2017. Web. 05 Feb. 2017. from http://www.cnbc.com/2017/01/06/how-a-tinder-founder-came-up-with-swiping-and-changed-dating-forever.html

Polis, Sarah. “Tinder Is so Last Year. In 2017, Dating Apps Will Get More Selective.” The Washington Post. WP Company, 05 Jan. 2017. Web. 05 Feb. 2017. from https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/01/05/tinder-is-so-last-year-in-2017-dating-apps-are-getting-more-selective/?utm_term=.007ce40a6c4f

 

 

 

 

 

Bumble App Releases “Bumble BFF”

By: Gabi Saithsoothane

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We’ve all heard about dating apps that are used help you find people you might be interested in, if you’re having trouble meeting people out in the real world. Bumble is an app launched in December 2014 by one of the co-founders of Tinder. Tinder and Bumble are very similar except the fact that the woman has to reach out and make the first move. When two people match by swiping right, the woman has to message the guy first within 24 hours or else the connection vanishes forever. For same sex matches either person has the option to message the other within 24 hours to keep the connection.

If you are in the market for a platonic relationship, last month Bumble released their new addition to the app called “Bumble BFF”. Yes, it is exactly what you think it is for. You can now use the app to find and meet new friends! It works the exact same way that same sex connections work.

Here is the video Bumble released about Bumble BFF: Bumble BFF

The reasoning for the new feature was because Bumble said people were using the app for dating and other times to find friends. Currently, the app has limited Bumble BFF for same sex friendships. The company wanted to start off the BFF mode with safety in mind but said it’s not because they think men and women cannot be in a platonic relationship.

Here is Bumble’s blog post on the new feature of the app: Bumble Blog

Since the dating mode and BFF mode will be similar, the conversations will be color coded to help differentiate the two. BFF will be highlighted green and your dating conversations will appear yellow.

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For me, I wanted to see how this app would actually turn out for people, considering all the crazy Tinder date stories I’ve heard. Mashable made a video testing out the new app. Check it out here: How to Swipe Right to Find a New BFF on Bumble

 

Apps For Love

Christina Som

Social media platforms have taken dating to a whole other level. Many people find it hard to meet people with going to school and work. Somehow, the socializing is hard for most to do. Instead of going out and meeting people, there is an app that was created to help people look for a nearby partner called, Tinder.

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Tinder is mainly used by people aged 18-40 to look for a lover. It is not an app where someone can casually just be friends. It is an app where people swipe left or right depending on if they like you and want to pursue a conversation with you. A swipe to the left means they do not wish to pursue you, a swipe to the right means that they do. If two people swipe right on one another, then they have a match and are able to talk to one another. One can complete their bio below their photos to enhance their chances of getting a swipe right.

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Dating has resulted to apps on phones instead of the casual going out and meeting someone in person. This is a more informal way of meeting others; also dangerous. No one knows for sure if the person they are talking to are actually a real person or a fake person. Nothing is for certain over the internet, but when it comes to dating, an app is to be trusted in this day ad age (sarcasm.)

This app is easy to use and can be used by all, social media platforms have varied in all types of ways. The dating apps are one that really attract people to purchase and or use for free for their leisure. This is a deal that is ongoing for social media because everyone is always looking for love and this is just a good base or platform to attract users.

Citations:

“Dating App Armed Robbery Remains Under Investigation.” Sandy Springs, GA Patch. N.p., 11 Apr. 2016. Web. 12 Apr. 2016.

“Finding Love Online: A Look at Dating Apps.” – The Crimson White. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Apr. 2016.

“Tinder Plus, a Paid Version of the Popular Dating App, Coming to Android Next Month | Droid Life.” Droid Life. N.p., 02 Feb. 2015. Web. 12 Apr. 2016.

Corbett, Kelly. “25 Things Every Tinder User Encounters.” Oddessey. N.p., 8 Feb. 2016. Web. 12 Apr. 2016.

“Tinder – Android Apps on Google Play.” Tinder – Android Apps on Google Play. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Apr. 2016.

Sex Love and Social Media

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By: Bernadette Orona

Less people want relationships while more people are looking to hook up. The trend to avoid serious relationships and commitment is increasing and this is largely contributed to the way social media has changed the way individuals interact.

I remember a time before everyone had a cell phone where we would hold long conversations on land lines, and write cute notes back and forth. There was opportunity to breathe while getting to know each other. Today technology has opened the doors to jealousy, commitment issues and the notorious hook up culture.

Social media allows individuals to document every second of their lives and for others to have access to that information too often leading to jealousy. One of 2000 people that commented on this issue said, “I think social media causes more insecurities between couples. For example seeing someone else in a picture with your significant other. Its easy for jealousy to arise.”  It arises questions like who is that, why are they with them, and why are they laughing, when it may actually mean absolutely nothing at all.

These same insecurities are what fuels commitment issues. Every time a relationship is questioned the possibility that the relationship will fail is presented. Therefore to avoid the possibility of failing and heartbreak relationships are avoided all together. Ben Sledge explained it in his blog as, “Even in the case of divorce and dating, we can’t imagine a few messy years of conflict to ultimately come out stronger, so we don’t commit. It’s the preemptive fail before the fail.” No one wants a relationship because they’re avoiding the break up.

No one commits to relationships, which in turn has produced the hook up culture. This has produced popular dating apps such as Tinder and OkCupid, applications created with this hook up culture in mind. Vanity Fair explains, “Dating apps are the free-market economy come to sex. The innovation of Tinder was the swipe—the flick of a finger on a picture, no more elaborate profiles necessary and no more fear of rejection; users only know whether they’ve been approved, never when they’ve been discarded.”

Thus creating a culture where sex is the goal and love is the enemy.

Some Killer, Tinder Loving

by Leah Barker

There are over 7.125 billion people in this world. 7.125 billion fish in the sea, or potential lovers.

According to statisticbrain.com, there are around 747,408 sex offenders currently in the U.S.

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Me, being a naive 23-year-old college student, downloaded Tinder with the persuasion of my roommates. I was surprised at the number of matches I received, and messages flooded in, with handsome men asking me for my phone number and Snapchat username.

They were cute, college graduates! What could be the harm in that? So naturally, I gave in, adding my new “friends” on my social media platforms like crazy.

I didn’t think much of it until I rolled over one morning and checked my phone like I always do. I had more than a couple of Snapchats that opened up to…well…a man’s pride, and trust me, I was not appreciative

On top of that, I had been added to highly inappropriate, sexually explicit groups on Facebook. I was shocked. Disgusted. The night before, I had just conversed with these seemingly sweet, smart guys about our passions and the meaning of life!

It was then that I realized that most men on these dating websites have a distinct, hidden motive that reveals itself as soon as they gain the woman’s trust.

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I was so disappointed. I don’t know what I was expecting…to meet my Prince Charming, maybe? But no, all I got was a plethora of phallic images to last me a lifetime.
There are so many dating sites trending right now, such as Grindr, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Match…the list goes on. Blind dates can be romantic, fun, and lead to life-long relationships, but the risks that online matches provide are often passed up. The only information that these dating sites provide are pictures, a brief description, and an online chatting experience. And to many, that is enough to meet the person face-to-face.

Thenextweb.com states “The figures show that in 2013, there were just 55 reported crimes citing Tinder or Grindr in England and Wales. This increased to 204 in 2014 and 412 by October 2015.” They continued to report that, “The most common crimes reported were of violence and sex offences, including rape, grooming, and sexual exploitation of children.”

Luckily, I was smart enough to reject my matches invitations of “Netflix and Chill,” but it still haunts me to think that online dating can lead to unwanted sexual gestures. All these men see on these sites are your images, and that is, in my experience, all that they want.

I know that there are definitely some “Happily Ever After” stories that come from these dating websites, but people have to be aware and armed when they first meet their blind dates.

To the Tinder, Grindr, and other dating site users: Proceed with caution.